In these times the celebration of Valentines Day has become popular with some Muslims (married and single). On this day these Muslims do a number of things which are associated with Valentines day such as exchange gifts of red roses, giving Valentines Day cards, wear red clothes, congratulating one another by saying things like ‘happy Valentines day’ and many other things.
However Valentines Day is haram in Islam as it is an un-Islamic practice as the origin of this celebration is pagan a later it became a Christian celebration. Originally it was a pagan Roman festival, which the Romans continued to celebrate after they became Christian. Later this festival became connected with a Christian saint known as Valentine who was sentenced to death on 14 February 270 CE. It is from him we get the name Valentines Day and the celebration of Valentines day is on the day he died (as he died on that day Valentines Day was held on that day to remember his story.
The prophet indicated that all people have their own festivals when he said, “…The Messenger of Allah said: “O Abu Bakr, every people has a festival…” Bukhariand Muslim. This festival (Valentines Day) is an Christian celebration. Therefore this celebration in our times is not for Muslims as it has no connection to Islam, it is a day of celebration for Christians.
Imam adh-Dhahabi said: If the Christians have a festival, and the Jews have a festival, it is only for them, so no Muslim should join them in that, just as no Muslim should join them in their religion or their direction of prayer. Tashabbuh al-Khasees bi Ahl al-Khamees, published in Majallat al-Hikmah (4/193).
One of the reason Muslims must not celebrate Valentines Day is because it is a part of the Christian faith, a Muslim should know this religion has been cursed by Allah in the Quran so joining in with Valentines Day is joining in with something that is a cause of incurring the wrath and punishment of Allah.
Allah has given (decreed Christians would celebrate their own festival on 14th February) them this day for themselves so Muslims most not get involved in celebrating Valentines Day. Allah says, “For every nation we have ordained religious ceremonies which they must follow (religious ceremonies such as prayer and fasting).” (al-Hajj 22:67). Therefore celebrating this day is like participating in any of their other acts of worship such as praying and fasting. Celebrating this day is like all their other acts of worship they are all ordained religious ceremonies which they must follow. So it is clear that Allah has prescribed Valentines Day for Christians as their own distinct religious ceremony, Allah says “To each among you (mankind), we have prescribed a law and a clear way” (al-Maidah 5:48}. Therefore joining in with or partially joining in with Valentines Day is considered joining in with one of the most characteristic and prominent symbols of Christianity (kufr: disbelieve).
Valentines Day is associated with Christianity celebrating this day is joining in with kufr. However if a person does not celebrate Valentines Day but joins in with some of its minor issues such as giving red roses (or other flowers), giving Valentines Day cards, wear red clothes, congratulating one another by saying things like ‘happy Valentines day’ and other acts associated with Valentines Day is joining in with some of the branches of kufr.
The prophet Mohammed has warned this ummah concerning coping the disbelievers in any outward actions or inward beliefs, so the one who celebrates Valentines Day and the one who does acts associated with Valentines Day on that day have both imitate the disbelievers in their outward kufr action which is haram. The prophet said, “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 3512; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. Ibn Taymiyyah said about this hadeeth, “This at the very least indicates that it is haraam to imitate them, although the apparent meaning is that the one who imitates them is a kaafir (disbeliever). Iqtida al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem, 1/237. Also he said, “Imitating them in outward matters leads to imitating them in attitude and actions, hence we are forbidden to imitate the kuffaar…as it says in the marfu hadeeth: ‘Whoever imitates a people is one of them.’” Majmoo al-Fataawa, 22/154.
In addition celebrating Valentines Day is haram because a Muslim is only suppose to celebrate two festivals, Eid al-Adha and Eid al-Fitr as these are confirmed in the sunnah of the prophet. So celebrating this day involves opposing the Sunnah of the prophet which is clear cut haram. Abu Dawood (1134) narrated that Anas said: When the Messenger of Allah came to Madeenah they had two days when they would play. He said: “What are these two days?” They said: “We used to play on these days during the Jaahiliyyah (before Islam).” The Messenger of Allah said: “Allah has given you instead of them two days that are better than them: the day of al-Adha and the day of al-Fitr.” This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
In addition to what has been mentioned it is haraam to help other Muslims celebrate Valentines Day by supplying any kind of food or drink, buying, selling, manufacturing, giving or advertising etc., as this would be regarded as cooperating in sin, transgression and disobedience towards Allah (as Valentines Day is a Christian celebration). Allah says, “Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment” (al-Maa’idah 5:2)
After reading what has gone before it should be clear that celebrating Valentines Day or even just doing things associated with Valentines day is haram in Islam from many angles, therefore Valentines Day must be avoided be every Muslim inshallah.
May Allah protect the ummah from this evil day. Ameen.