One of the main reasons (and I praise Allah)why I have put this article together to was due to the fact that you can found so many articles out there on mothers day but, the problem is, when looking thru them I have found that they are long, exhausting and not to the point! The second reason for putting this article together was to shed light on reality about where this so called celebration Eidul’umm (mothers day) came from. So I ask Allah the Exalted and High to accept this from me.
Definition of the word ‘Eid:
As Mother’s Day is known in Arabic as “Eidul’umm” or “mothers’ festival”; the word Eid is derive from the root aada/ya’ood meaning to come back or return.
Shaykhul Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
Eid (festival) is a name that is given to an occasion which returns, when people gather in a festive manner, whether that is annual or weekly or monthly and so on.” Iqtidaa Al’Siraat al Mustaqeem 1/441
Ibn ‘Aabideen also said:
Eid is so called because Allah repeatedly bestows blessings, i.e., kinds of blessings that come back to His Slaves on these days, such as breaking the fast after refraining from eating, Sadaqat ul’Fitr (obligatory charity paid at the end of Ramadaan), completing the Hajj by doing Tawaaf al’Ziyaarah, the sacrificial meats, and so on; and because the tradition on such occasions is to express joy and happiness, and to be energetic and happy.” Haashiyat Ibn Aabideen 2/165
In this great Religion there are only two Eid’s, this is based on the following Hadith of Anas Ibn Maalik who said:
“During the Jaahiliyyah, the people had two days each year when they would play. When the Prophet came to Madinah he said, “You had two days on which you would play, but Allah has given you something better than them: the day of Al’Fitr and the day of Al’Adha.” Abu Dawood 1134 & Nasaa’i 1556 and Shaykh Al’Albaani said this Hadith is Sahih
So dear brothers and sisters, we have two Eid’s this should be enough for us! How dear us choose, one day of the year to do good to our beloved mothers! We should be nice, dutiful and loving to our mothers every day of the week, this is what Islaam commands Allah the Exalted and High says in the Quraan :
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْيَتَامَى وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالْجَنْبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَنْ كَانَ مُخْتَالًا فَخُورًا
“Worship Allah and join none with Him (in worship); and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al’Masaakeen (the poor), the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful” [An’Nisa 36]
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said a man came to the Messenger of Allah and said:
‘’O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is most deserving of my good company?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Then your father.’’ Al’Bukhaari 5626 & Muslim 2548
Al’Haafiz Ibn Hajar said Ibn Battaal said:
What this means is that the mother should be honoured three times more than the father. He said, that is because of the difficulties of pregnancy, then giving birth, then breastfeeding. These are hardships that are experienced only by the mother, then the father shares with her in raising the child.
Allah the Exalted also says:
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَى وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ
‘’And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years.’’ [Luqmaan 14]
So the recommendation to be dutiful and good refers to both parents, but the mother’s share is greater because of the three things mentioned above. Al-Qurtubi said:
What is meant is that the mother deserves a greater share of her child’s honour, and her rights take precedence over those of the father in cases where a choice must be made. ‘Iyaad said: the majority of scholars were of the view that the mother takes precedence over the father in terms of honouring one’s parents. And it was said that both must be honoured equally, and this was narrated by some from Maalik, but the former view is the one which is correct.” Fath 10/402
The Prophet told us that his Ummah (this Muslim-nation) would follow the previous nations, the Jews, Christians and Persians, but this was undoubtedly not a praise for their actions, rather it is by way of condemnation and a warning against it. It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed that the Prophet said:
“You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, handspan by handspan, cubit by cubit, until even if they entered the hole of a lizard, you will do so too.” We asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, do you mean the Jews and the Christians?” He said, “Who else?” Al’Bukhari 3269 & Muslim 2669
Also Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said:
“The Hour will not begin until my Ummah follows in the footsteps of those who came before it, handspan by handspan, cubit by cubit.” It was asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, like the Persians and Romans?” He said, “Those are the people?” Al’Bukhari 6888
When the Europeans Kufaar (non-Muslims) found that children do not deal properly towards their parents nor give them their due right, they resorted to specifying an annual occasion for children to remedy the situation. But in Islaam, mothers are to be given due respect and love every time, not only one day a year
Mother day was invented or created by Anna Jarvis, an American woman whose mother died in 1906. In 1908 she managed to persuade her local church to hold an annual service which honoured all mothers. So the very first service was held in 1908, with the first annual service being held in 1909, on the second Sunday in May. The concept of Mothers Day quickly caught on and by 1914, the American Government made it an official ceremony.
Within a few years nearly every Christian led country had a Mothers Day (sometimes referred to as mothering Sunday) and it is widely celebrated within Christain countries to this day. However, it very quickly became commercialised and Anna Jarvies felt that the whole concept had been corrupted by the introduction of cards, gifts and flowers, all of which were presented with the sole aim of making money for the sellers. Her aim had been simply to have a religious occassion, celebrating motherhood.
So Eidul’umm (Mothers Day) is in short is to be stayed away from and shunned complelty if we as Muslimoon want success in both lives and Allah grants success.