Shaykh Ubayd Al-Jaabiree said, “This is something that exists, without doubt. For verily, in many houses, you will find that there is only one sunnee-salafee; one man or one woman, and the rest of them are all people of bid’ah. That person has to have a good kind of siyaasah [i.e. a diplomatic or wise way of dealing with these people]. And he should show them love and affection, and win them over with kindness. Yes.
He should clarify the truth for them with a clarification of love, sincere affection and honesty.
Also he should not rise against them, the rising of a lion upon its prey; nor should he manifest to them that they are deviants and that he is the one who is upon the truth and right guidance.
Rather, it is upon him to follow or to seize the opportunity of kinship; to take advantage of this kinship, and that he clarifies (the truth) to them until Allaah Azza wa Jalla guides them. And it is upon him to exercise patience and sacrifice. He should not be hasty, as long as the bidah is mufassiqah [i.e. an innovation which doesn’t expel the doer from the fold of Islaam].
So it is upon him to be patient and make sacrifice, and that he be serious and exert himself in this.
As well, he should entrust his affairs to Allaah with supplication in seeking their guidance and their returning to the Sunnah. Yes…
As far as our experience shows, people benefit from the use of wisdom and a good siyaasah [i.e. a diplomatic or wise way of dealing with these people] , whether they are regular people or ‘ulamaa (scholars).
But as for the stubborn rejecter, then he should be dealt with according to ability and strength…”
Ref: A Cassette entitled ‘Dawaabit mu’aamalatis sunnee lil-bid’ee’
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