Shaykh Ubayd Al-Jaabiree said, “At-Tamyee [is to seek to bring Ahlu Bidah and the Salafis together while being overly lenient and soft in ones manhaj towards Ahlu Bidah in such way that the persons behaviour opposes the manhaj of the Salaf in dealing with Ahlu Bidah], its meaning is from its name, and it is the opposite of proclaiming and standing up openly for the truth. It is the complete opposite of this. The Mumayyi therefore is the one who does not proclaim and stand up openly for the truth, and does not speak with it.
Rather, he comes with expressions – which leave aside clarity – upon those who speak the truth and openly proclaim it.
It is a manhaj that is traversed upon by two types of people:
1- The first of them is the one who doesn’t have any furqaan (criterion) about those methodologies that are contradictory to Ahlu Sunnah Wal Jamaah.
2- The second are a group from the Islamic callers to falsehood, who outwardly portray Salafiyyah and also opposition to Salafiyyah. However their aim is to win the love of both, those [the Salafis] and those [the opposers, hizbis (innovators)].
So their face and their advise are inclined towards the hizbis [those who base their love and hate upon innovated methodologies and not the Quran and Sunnah] and the Islamic callers to falsehood. Yet their outward appearance is toward the Salafis, but they are not really with the Salafis.
Rather, they are those who waver, swing [in opposing directions]. In reality, they have a resemblance to the Munaafiqeen (hypocrites). They have a resemblance to the Munaafiqeen (hypocrites)…
I advise the youth that they not be hasty in judgement and that they are not hasty [in boycotting others over this issue].
That they occupy themselves with beneficial knowledge and striving in righteous actions.
That they are not hasty in passing judgements upon those who are brothers to them, but who have adopted mudaarat with some amongst Ahlu Bidah.
[Mudaarat is a type of behavioral engagement by which one intends dawah to some from Ahlu Bidah, whom one believes he can change and rectify, and thus deals with them in a lenient, friendly and gentle manner in order to stop them running away from your dawah upon Salafiyyah. Dealing with them in this way is not from the blameworthy mixing, but is a limited way of intending to correct them and invite them to the truth.]
Mudaarat is from the Sunnah(1) and Mujaamalah is from Tamayyu`, and this is from bidah.
[Mujaamalah is flattery and compromise of the principles of ones Salafiyyah inoder to draw a person from Ahlu Bidah close to the Salafi dawah and it is blameworthy because it invovles comprising ones Salafi principles. Also Mujaamalah is very similar to or the same as mudaahanah which involves comprising ones deen inoder to bring an innovator close to the Sunnah.]
It is obligatory to distinguish between this [Mudaarat] and that [Mujaamalah].
So the one who is with you upon the Sunnah and who strengthens you, who strengthens your resolve and who defends you, in the both the hidden and open, but he has certain positions of Mudaarat with some from Ahlu Bidah, then in reality he is with us [the Salafis] and we are with him…”
1. Shaykh Ubayd Al-Jaabiree said, “As for the proofs from the detailed Sunnah of the Prophet (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) that he said[*]: “Give him permission. What an evil brother of his family he is.” So when the man entered, the Messenger of Allaah (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was kind and cheerful with him and he spoke to him with lenient speech. So when he left, those who were with the Prophet (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Oh Messenger of Allaah, you said what you said about this man, but you treated him how you treated him. He (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) relpied, “The most evil of people is the one whom people abandon” or [he said] “the one whom people leave off out of fear of his indescency.”
And the point of these two sentences from the hadith is: in the first one, he said, “What an evil brother of his family he is.” So this is a disparagement of that man by the agreement of the people of the sharee’ah and the Arabic language.
And in the second statement, he said, “The most evil of people is the one whom people abandon.” So this is a notification of two things.
The first of them that the Messenger of Allaah (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) acting that way with the man in terms of lenient speech, and being kind and cheerful was by way of al mudaaraat (indulging and humoring him). The al mudaaraatis from the obligatory legislated politics in its proper place. And the second thing confirms what has preceeded that the man was dispraised and hated; [he was] a person of indescency, and this is another jarh (disparagement) from him (sallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) against that man.” Ref: salafitalk.net
The above narration marked with a * has another narration of that hadeeth narrated by ‘Aisha radiAllaahu anha:
A man asked permission to enter upon the Prophet. When the Prophet saw him, he said, “What an evil brother of his tribe! And what an evil son of his tribe!” When that man sat down, the Prophet behaved with him in a nice and polite manner and was completely at ease with him. When that person had left, ‘Aisha said (to the Prophet). “O Allah’s Apostle! When you saw that man, you said so-and-so about him, then you showed him a kind and polite behavior, and you enjoyed his company?” Allah’s Apostle said, “O ‘Aisha! Have you ever seen me speaking a bad and dirty language? (Remember that) the worst people in Allah’s sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people leave (undisturbed) to be away from their evil (deeds).” Saheeh Bukhari
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